Today i had lunch in Mid Valley with ma awesome bestfriend Eeleng. First time driving to MidV alone...n freaking lazy to park..so i spent 8bucks for jockey parking instead :P what a brat!
Anyways, it has been quite some time since the last time i met her. Miss ya babe!!!
Being the talkative gals that we are, we didnt give a minute of break to fill each other with what has been happening with each other's life.
Ma point of writing this blog was that...since today is V-day (yes Muslims do not celebrate it)..love is so filling the air n all...i just wanna share some insights this thing call love. (hahaha i sounded like an expert la pulak :P)
Love. Infatuation. Crush. Everything is related to this thing called FEELINGS. Feelings can be helpful and a bitch too at the same time. Trust me..i know! When you are not able to control your feelings..it might just lead u to trouble. But if you take ur intuition as a sign to avoid from doin something stupid, feelings will be considered as helpful. If you know how to express your feelings right, you might just brighten another soul's day.
My dearest friend just got out of a relationship a few months back. Not surprisingly, she's still not over it. Wanna know why? There were no proper closure. By saying so, closure is not a figure of speech of "I think our relationship has come to an end." or "I think its better we stay friends." or "I've found someone else. Im sorry".
No. Those statements are NOT closure to a relationship.
Always consider the POST-breakup. Cos that's the hardest part. I came to realize that, after breaking up, the only way to move on and get that CLOSURE is to know if what u were feeling at that moment of post breakup is being felt by ur ex too. Am i right? Just stop and think. When you breakup with someone, wether it was just a crush thing...or a 4 months relationship..or 4 years relationship...u will always think.. "Does he/she misses me?" "how is he/she feeling about it"
All you've got to know to move on was that. For eg....I know ma dear friend will be able to move on stronger if she knew what her ex were thinking or feeling about the whole thing, wether its the same as hers or not. In that way, she will know for sure if there's hope for them to re-unite, or turn friends or permanent break off where they hate each other. It sucks u know..after a break up..missing someone else. But it will hurt less if u know he/she is actually feeling the same way..hurting or suffering the same as u r. if he/she is not also, u will still be able to move on easily as ull know for sure what u meant to them.
So my suggestions to the couples who just ended their relationship, it is ok to tell ur partner that u do think of her/him even after u decided to end it. By saying so, this has to come from the party who DECIDED to end it, not the victim. Trust me, it will help them move on ;) If you think you dont have the guts to tell that yourself, get someone to do it for you. OR..there's this phrase "action speaks louder than words"? :P Keep it mild.
(however, do not LIE just to make them feel better. I dunno if it that works for u, but i would totally not appreciate that la. take note of that future heart breakers! :p)
Good luck!
