Gals love being pampered. When its OVER pampered..we stamp em with "SPOILT" on their forehead. But in reality, who spoils em?
Ive had guy friends who will complain how spoilt their gals are. How the gals would get anything and everything that they want. Ok. Blame the parents for giving em all the materials such as moneh, cars, credit card n such. As a bf, whats ur role? Continue spoiling her? Exactly. What is it?
I personally think, to make someone who aged 30 to grow up from acting 18 is to provide em with 'growing up space'. How? Easy. When u get everything u want, u tend to take forgranted. Eg, when u r sick, u know someone will come running to u n bring u to the clinic n make sure u eat the right food..at the right timing n make sure u get enuff rest. Not just that, he or she will come n check on u every hour! Im not saying u should ditch all that n let her/him die n rot by himself, but to give em a chance to take care of emself u know.
Ok. Different perspective. What if you are not around? How will he/she survive? Die and rot? In a way, when u learn to give em a lil space to 'grow up', they will b able to handle such situations when ur assistance cant be met. Dont u think so?
I know u r trying to be caring..and sensitive. We are all like that. N we want that too. But like i said...if u continue over pampering her/him, he/she'll never be able to stand on her 2 feet..hence will be dependable on u on everything! n at the end of the day mite even take forgranted of u.
Give space. Give chances to learn. Trust me..they'll appreciate it one day. :)
Ive had guy friends who will complain how spoilt their gals are. How the gals would get anything and everything that they want. Ok. Blame the parents for giving em all the materials such as moneh, cars, credit card n such. As a bf, whats ur role? Continue spoiling her? Exactly. What is it?
I personally think, to make someone who aged 30 to grow up from acting 18 is to provide em with 'growing up space'. How? Easy. When u get everything u want, u tend to take forgranted. Eg, when u r sick, u know someone will come running to u n bring u to the clinic n make sure u eat the right food..at the right timing n make sure u get enuff rest. Not just that, he or she will come n check on u every hour! Im not saying u should ditch all that n let her/him die n rot by himself, but to give em a chance to take care of emself u know.
Ok. Different perspective. What if you are not around? How will he/she survive? Die and rot? In a way, when u learn to give em a lil space to 'grow up', they will b able to handle such situations when ur assistance cant be met. Dont u think so?
I know u r trying to be caring..and sensitive. We are all like that. N we want that too. But like i said...if u continue over pampering her/him, he/she'll never be able to stand on her 2 feet..hence will be dependable on u on everything! n at the end of the day mite even take forgranted of u.
Give space. Give chances to learn. Trust me..they'll appreciate it one day. :)
